1andonly's blog

I took my children from theior mother last april ,because of a drug problem she is having. Knew she was having problems for the last couple of years ,but always had a rational explanation for my enquiries. thought my children and myself had a very close bond as we have seen each other on the weekends for the past 9 yrs. I thought they would tell me if problems were happening in their lives,really didnt see this coming.(she really was an excellent mother during our marriage).went to take the kids home one weekend in april and was surprised to learn she was admitted to hospital.called her parents and was fed a lie( got blood poisoning from stepping on a tack ) ,fortunately her cousin called me and told me what was happening. so called social services and asked what my parental rights were and what I should do. they told me it was all my responsibility(thanks).I took the kids. I explained to them what was happening and started calling various organizations(family services,social services ,welfare,family court ,lawyer<etc.) . family court assigned a mediator who promptly sent out a request for mediation with a 60 day reply deadline,which promptly stopped my lawyer dead in her tracks(my mistake),fine waited for a response that was not coming. wife knowing she had full parental rights went to the school on the last day before summer holidays and removed my 9 yr old daughter. sent my 12 yr old son into a tail spin.couldnt do anything because there was never a agreed upon child custody paper signed.(sorry but must backtrack ),family services assigned the children a councillor to help them cope with the situation,in which case the mental abuse was brought forward to my attention as well as social services).anyways both rcmp and social services declined to interfere(thanks). both children were coerced to hide everything by their mom but as the councilling brought forth.when she grabbed my daughter my son decided to explkain everything that had occurred to the councillor who immediately contacted family services who really did nothing but try to cover it up(apparently they had multiple complaints from both the schools and neighours. anyways ,in august both chilkdren went to their grandparents for a week ,upon dropping nick (12 ) off to our home megan(10) asked to stay . so both children are safe here with me. mediation request expired two weeks later and my lawyer immediately requested for a court order based on what we learned from councilling and her abduction from school. this was declined from the judge and set over for trial on dec.14.(from what i have been told this is relatively fast for our family court system). she has made multiple attempts to grab the child from school since then. I have cut off any visits with their mom,unless she is willing to come here while being supervised(she declined).I have allowed her to speak to thew children on the phone as what harm could this do(wrong).children were declined councilling through family services once they learned of the custody dispute. family doctor immediately contacted mental health upon learning of our predicament as he felt it was necessary for the kids to have help during this emotional trial(he is also her dr.) mental health served her a registered letter and gave her 60 days to respond(again it was ignored).upon not receiving a response they gave nick(12) an assessment meeting which afterwards an immediate psychiatrist apptment ,which as a result he was assigned an psychologist which determined (this shit has to stop) basically as long as she keeps tormenting them its a waste of time to keep attempting to heal them. which is where we are at now,the psychologist feels he can right the wrongs ,but it will take time ,and he will have her dealt with as he sees fit.If anyone has any advice I would surely appreciate it. THANKS.