1andonly's blog

There are two days in every week about which we should not worry - two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension.

One of these days is yesterday, with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, and its aches and pains.

Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back yesterday. We cannot erase a single word we said. Yesterday is gone.

The other day we should not worry about is tomorrow. Tomorrow is beyond our immediate control. Tomorrow's sun will rise, whether in splendor or behind a mask of clouds. But it will rise. Until it does, we have no stake in tomorrow.

This leaves only one day - today.

Anyone can fight the battles of just one day. It is when you and I add the burdens of those two awful eternity's - yesterday and tomorrow- that we break down.

Let us therefore live one day at a time.

Get it in writing! Whether it is scheduling your vaction at work, a contract job, changing a visitation week, get the plans in writing! If it is explicitely spelled out, there is no confusion and nothing to argue about!

Find a support group. There are plenty of great ones that are free through churches and hospitals or even the library. Others have a yearly membership fee like Parents Without Partners, that also offer other perks that a National Organization can do: newsletters, local events, regional and national events, legal advice, gatherings, etc.

Have fun with your child(ren). If you have always been alone or are suddenly single, enjoy the time with your child regardless of your status. They are only young for a little while. Don't mope past the whole stage of their life!

Get new hobbies. If you find yourself dwelling about your alone status too much, fins a new hobby to occupy your time and hands. Learn to sew, take a writing class, teach an art class - there are endless things to do! Be active and don't give in to pity parties about being a single parent.

Don't feel alone. Lots of other parents are single parents. They face the same issues and challenges you do and have the same struggles. Strike up a conversation if you know of another single parent. Don't be shy!

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