[Brenda]

I totally agree with that. I never said I would make a long list

[Yogi]

I wholeheartedly agree, not a phrase to be used lightly. I have many aquantances, male and female, but precious few whom I consider close enough friends whom I would give or go to any lengths for. These are the people whom I tell 'I love you', and from whom I receive the same unabashed reply. I don't consider it 'going out of my way' or 'rearranging my life' at all, to 'answer a call' from any of them. Those who have passed on did so with full knowledge of my feelings for them right to their last breath.

It has been my experience as well as several whom I have discussed this topic with that many times some people just can't possibly make it to a wedding for a variety of 'reasons' yet these same folks will take the time off work, drive for two hard days through the mountains in blizzards to attend a funeral. Too little, too late!

[Brenda]

a funeral is there for the people who are left behind, not for the deceased. A wedding is there for the people who actually live it, so to speak

Seriously, if you were too busy to be part of my life, don't bother bothering my loved ones with your presence when I am dead (or dieing, for that matter).