[Brenda]

Sometimes, it is either that, or visit them somewhere you don't want them to be.

[PJB]

As a parent of two kids, 15 and 11 I am sick and tired of all the B.S about the rights of kids and the all too prevelant 'political correctness'. No wonder kids get away with whatever they want. Parents would rather be best buds with their kids than parents. Then when something happens little 'Jimmy' or 'Jane' got into the wrong crowd because their parents did the time out thing or whatever. My kids did get spanked and so far are pretty damn good. Their cousin on the other hand had a tv with satelite and a DVD player and watched TV wherever and whenever he wanted to and now is an 8 year old brat!

Parents are Parents first!

[Lemmy]

I even hear from people I know that they buy their teenaged kids beer. They say "Well, we know they'll do it anyway, so we want to let them know they don't have to lie to us." Is that the WORST fucked-up logic ever?

[PJB]

Lemmy Lemmy:

R=UP
I even hear from people I know that they buy their teenaged kids beer. They say "Well, we know they'll do it anyway, so we want to let them know they don't have to lie to us." Is that the WORST fucked-up logic ever?

I totally agree with you. I remember getting into trouble at school and no matter what the punishment was at school I knew it would be 2000% worse when I got home. Now parents go to the school and bitch about little 'Jimmy' getting a detention because he would never do that!
Some parents are chicken shits that are raising shitheads that don't give a rats ass about anything because they have never had to face consequences for their actions.

[TattoodGirl]

PJB PJB:

As a parent of two kids, 15 and 11 I am sick and tired of all the B.S about the rights of kids and the all too prevelant 'political correctness'. No wonder kids get away with whatever they want. Parents would rather be best buds with their kids than parents. Then when something happens little 'Jimmy' or 'Jane' got into the wrong crowd because their parents did the time out thing or whatever. My kids did get spanked and so far are pretty damn good. Their cousin on the other hand had a tv with satelite and a DVD player and watched TV wherever and whenever he wanted to and now is an 8 year old brat!

Parents are Parents first!

Never is it ok to grab a child by its neck...spank all you want, as long as it doesnt leave marks (that is a sign of over aggression)...but grab a kid by its neck come on...I dont think you would do this.

[TattoodGirl]

Annihilator Annihilator:

Legally, he has the right to spank his children.


On the other hand, I think that hitting your child is a pretty bad way to make discipline and good parents don't need to resort to that kind of domination techniques.

[kenmore]

Spanking is one thing ( albeit unacceptable) grabbing the kid by the throat is something else. He deserved to be charged and the kid should be removed by the CAS.

[Lemmy]

So, when I use the Mr. Spock Vulcan knock-out pinch on my kids' necks, that's bad parenting?

[EyeBrock]

Mmmm, I had cpl punishment at school and my Dad whacked me the odd time. All it did to me is make me very resentful.

My 9 year old, he steps into line because he's a bit afraid of me when I'm mad. My 3 year old girl doesn't respond to any threats or force, just explanation.

I'm kinda wary of parents using force on kids. Battle lost really.

[Unsound]

Personally I think one of my mom's friends had it right. Shortly after I was born she told my mom "spank them before they're old enough to remember it." I'm convinced that that leads to a subconcious realization when the kid gets older that when mom gets that certain look in her eye it's time to quit fucking around. I never needed to be spanked one Igot older for that very reason.

[Brenda]

Hehehe, I did not too long ago. My 9 year old got a spank on her butt. In public. It didn't hurt (she turned her butt away, so I missed most) but the humiliation was enough for her to quit what she was doing.
They know, that when it comes to that, they REALLY did something terribly wrong. When we got home, she went to her room, by herself (I didn't even have to say anything ) and half an hour later, she came out and apologized.

[PublicAnimalNo9]

There's nothing wrong with spanking your child, as long as that's ALL it is.
The old saying, "Spare the rod, spoil the child" has nothing to do with NOT letting your 16 yr old use the car.

[Annihilator]

Wtf is wrong with you guys? Since when does raising and disciplining your children means agressing, humiliating and bringing them down when they do something wrong?

Spanking won't make your children a better person, it will make your children a person that is scared of getting beaten the crap up if he doesn't do things right. You're supposed to guide them, not to dominate them. You don't make an happy and balanced individual by injecting fear into it.

Now, physical force is only one of the numerous abuses children can suffer from their parents.

[EyeBrock]

Which guys are you talking about? I don't think my post was a ringing endorsement of spanking.

[Brenda]

EyeBrock EyeBrock:

Which guys are you talking about? I don't think my post was a ringing endorsement of spanking.

Probably me.

Well, I am sorry, but if I think there is a reason for spanking my kids, when I have done all the talking that doesn't work, they get spanked. On the butt. Sue me.