[Blue_Nose]

Yes, I've "adapted" for a girl (wouldn't say "changed"), but I wasn't asked or pressed to, and I'd be pretty pissed if someone asked me to.

[SprCForr]

I actually try to help with keeping up the house work. I always did pitch in when the kids were needing wrangling. My language has cleaned up in mixed company. Small stuff like that. Maybe a little bit more considerate.

lily lily:

... he is who he is.

Mrs SprCForr goes along with that quote. She says some of the small things might change, but not by much, if at all.

[ShepherdsDog]

adapted????

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[SprCForr]

[RoyalHighlander]

If you want to change some one then are you sure you want to be with that person??? Im so totally in love with my wife Katherine.. I fell in love with her the was she was/is... Why would I want to change her??? Then she wouldnt be the same person I fell for, no??. I dont get it.. Why change some one.. If you need to then that person is not the one for you...

[ShepherdsDog]

That's a key difference between men and women. We marry women hoping that they'll never change and a woman marries a man, thinking that they can change him.

[twister]

changed adapted.. whatever.. we all go through changes in our lives. Changing to be accepted by the other person only leads to destuction.. lets put it in Yoda terminology..... (it is the path that leads one down the road to the dark side). changing leads to lying, lying leads to despair, despair leads to anger... then the dark side.... the future for you young one is very cloudy if you think you can change someone.

[Regina]

I think males can accept things the way they are, while women tend to think things should be a certain way..........if that makes any sense.

[canucker]

RoyalHighlander RoyalHighlander:

If you want to change some one then are you sure you want to be with that person??? Im so totally in love with my wife Katherine.. I fell in love with her the was she was/is...

Everytime you speak of your wife Katherine.... same name as me, same spelling too.


I was in a bad relationship when I was younger and I always thought I could "help" him (change him) to become a better person. I felt it was my duty to change his bad ways... well I was very wrong and learned my lesson the hard way.

[ShepherdsDog]

For the most part, women are the primary shapers of the male psyche during the crucial formative period. A lot of what and who we are is the result of what our mothers have made us.

[Lord_Melchet]

Many have tried and many have fallen in that quest

The current Mrs M, was aware of my traits, my wanderlust and habbit of eating glue, when she married me and whilst she has endeavoured to train me, as one would break a horse, I believe my failings add something to our relationship.

She has things that irk me, but that is what makes her her and I would not change them, I play on them to add spice to our relationship. So Ladies do not change us, do not even try, we are what we are and no one should be made to compromise for the sake of making someone else happy. Why live this short life as a lie, be yourself and screw you if yo do not like it

[DerbyX]

ShepherdsDog ShepherdsDog:

For the most part, women are the primary shapers of the male psyche during the crucial formative period. A lot of what and who we are is the result of what our mothers have made us.

and now that your wife isn't reading over your shoulder..... what do you really think!

[ShepherdsDog]

I was told that that was my opinion and I have to stick to it.

[RoyalHighlander]

somthing came to mind while reading this... As time goes by I think we try to better ourselves and maybe change things we do to better our selves, but its done on our own when we see that we need to improve things so to speak.. But its something we take upon opurselves to do, NOT whet our mate tells us we need to change...

[Arachnodisiac]

There is a chasm of difference between compromise which is required in any healthy relationship and relates to practical issues, and "changing" someone - an unhealthy response and an even unhealthier result if the partner accomodates the request.

People begin relationships in many cases because "it's there". They may be lonely, and enjoy the other's company but settles for something not ideal biding time until something better comes along, or because they fear something better may never cross their path.

Sadly, many continue to persevere in these relationships, trying to modify them, mould them into what they should have looked for originally.

People, as a whole, tend to fear confrontation, and change. So rather than being honest with themselves, and with their partner, they do crazy things like get married.

The result is an alarming rash of divorces, or "white picket empty" marriages. Rarely do I see a couple that appear to be close, well-adjusted, and genuinely happy with one another.