Banff Banff:
It seems like such an enormous difference between a relationship coming apart when you have children versus just being lovers . Sharing your world , and wondering away or drifting apart to other destinys in life is not such a bad thing when children are not involved . My teenage sweetheart keeps telling me that we would make great geriatric companions once our children have grown up and if our spouses were to die before ourselves . In the roughly 200 relationships I had before marriage this would be the only one which may be a future reality but a very slim one at best .The remaining women are just casual parts of growing sharing and living life and who made a difference in my life and likewise for them (no bitter or hard feelings) . If any of us crossed paths in the future it would be nothing more than a simple hello , greeting , a few kind words in respect and appreciation but there would be no reunion or need for the reunion and we would likely carry on going our seperate ways and with no greater intentions than acquaintances . I think it would be fair to say that you are nothing more than piers and crossing paths is comforting in that respect but to challenge the idea that a couple would or should reunite is just not a reality . It is human to feel some degree of mourn or gut wrenching loss with the parting of ways for a period of time but to be friends or reunite any time soon just seems like a basket of reoccurring problems waiting to reentertain themselves and also loaded with complacency and fear of being alone .
you're perfectly right, but remember life will pass by and your children will grow up and them they will depart......so, i mean that they will understand your desition, because sooner or later they will learn that people used to get appart and then, they will forgive you........
the only thing you have to do is to try to meet them as often as you can in a neutral territory like a park, a beach,a chopping mall etc,etc so that there no give room to the intimacy that could give the home you've left.
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